Friday, February 12, 2010

The Value of a Girl

The beautiful sunny 'San Diego' weather that we are so blessed with was hiding its splendor this last Monday, and Mr. Rain had taken it's place. Some of our youth at church, my daughter included, had a day off from school and wanted to just be together. We opted to have lunch in the food court at the local mall. We are a very creative bunch, and also took some games, so suffice it to say that we spent a very healthy amount of time at a table in the food court. We were not the only 'creative' bunch that had decided to make the food court our personal rain shelter. I noticed 2 girls and a boy sitting very near to us. They had already been there when we first sat down, and although were not eating, they were there the whole time we were. I have always had a burden for young people, and I just kind of felt drawn toward one of the girls. She was a very beautiful YOUNG girl. The make-up and seductive clothing didn't fool me. The guy that was with them could have starred in the music video 'Pants on the Ground'...Now enters Mr. Gangsta. As I played our latest craze, 'Monopoly Deal' with my daughter Chantal and these incredible young people from our church, I found it harder and harder to stay focused on the game. My laughter and joy began take a drastic turn. My heart was breaking and I was shaking with anger and sadness inside as I sat in this mall where people were deciding the 'value' of 'things' and buying and selling 'things'..... all the while there sat 2 young girls in the very same mall who didn't know their own 'value'. I shook with anger as I watched 'Mr. Gangsta' go from one girl to the other. He would sit on their lap and put his hands ALL over them. After spending time with one, he'd go to the other. As I sat there I began to feel VERY angry. I got up at one point and asked an employee to call Security. I was told that if there was no immediate danger, I would have to go to the information desk and make a request. Meanwhile my daughter had sensed something wrong with me. The other kids as well. When they noticed what was taking my attention, they all began to feel the same feelings of compassion, anger, sadness. I felt like something had to be done. As I was preparing to get up, I noticed one of the girls quickly walk away, followed by the other girl (the one I had been drawn to). This was my chance. I stood up and said "Excuse me, excuse me"...got her attention and she came over to me. My first question was 'How old are you?' I learned that this beautiful girl was 13. I wanted to cry. I began to talk to her about her 'value'. I told her that she was very beautiful and deserved so much more than to be treated how she was being treated. I could tell that I was reaching her, but when my daughter stepped in and began talking to her, I KNEW we were reaching her. We made friends with her and gave her our church card. When she left our table she left with the knowledge that she had 'value'. She was worth so much. That day really impacted me and the young people I was with. We saw so many things on this girls face in a matter of minutes....shame, embarrassment, regret, then... hope? A spark of hope?? It was a 'Real Life' lesson for them seeing that this kind of behavior doesn't bring bliss, but brings shame. It was a 'Real Life Lesson' when they saw the power of looking someone in the eye and telling them how 'valuable' they were to God and to the people of God. The value of one girl.....worth the whole world.

5 comments:

Jana McVay said...

With tears in my eyes and a heavy heart, I must say that this post touched me deeply. I am so glad you took the opportunity to let this little girl know her "value". How many times do we Apostolics walk past teenagers like these mentioned here and just shake our heads and judge them for their lack of "decency"??? This post makes me ashamed of the many times I have done this! It is time to share with the youth of this world that they do indeed have "value" and that there is someone who can meet all their needs and fill the void that they are trying to fill by allowing themselves to be used at such a tender age!!!!

Thank you for sharing this experience with us and for being such a wonderful example for your daughter and youth group! I will be praying that this young lady comes to your church and has a life changing experience. May she come to know her true VALUE to God; that he loves HER so much that he gave his life so that she could have eternal life.

Anonymous said...

I have to say that i was touched by this post. As a young person i sometimes get distracted in my own world and forget about those who need the most attention; and reading this brought my mind back to a topic that is so importaint which is my generation. I hope you continue posting experiences like this one, so people like me can learn from a woman of God such as yourself.

Debi said...

I found your blog by accident and I'm so glad I did. I can't think of anything I've recently read that has moved me or convicted me as much as this experience you shared. If not for the grace of God, I would have been that teenage girl. But someone took the time to show me that I have "value"...and God spared me the heartache so many girls go through. Your blog reminded me of how blessed I am and that I have a gift to share. I've passed up too many opportunities to reach out to hurting and searching young girls and I am repenting and asking God for another chance to touch someone's life...the same way MY life was touched and changed because someone like you cared.
Thank you again - and God bless!

Jana Miraflor said...

WOW! THAT was beautiful! Spoken from a true heart of gold! You are an incredible person and example to your youth. Your children exemplify you and you guys are going to IMPACT your area!!

Love you!!
Jana

Meagan Rowell said...

Hi Sis. Bertram :)

This is so touching! You inspired ME, as a young girl, to keep reaching out to other people my age who don't know Jesus and show them how much "value" they have. Thank you so much!!